Born gay? Is it a choice?

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Coming out…

Coming out is never easy. There is always that fear of rejection from your loved ones. There are no words for that painful reality we face.

At 25, I learned that you are stuck with you. You cannot lie to yourself and pretend to be who you’re not, you’ll incur more damage than expected. Being gay is not a choice. Trust me, I know. But being a good person is a choice. Most of all, staying alive, being functional, and happy is… Respect yourself. Love yourself. Those are all choices we can freely make.

Your family, as much as you love them, might go away. You’ll end up thinking they don’t love you because they do not, cannot, or will never accept you. Maybe they will, but maybe they won’t. My family is a conservative Catholic family. At this point, I am made to believe that I am being rejected not only now, but until the day they die. (They’re words). This was relayed to me, of course, unwittingly forgetting of my inherent goodness as a person.

This reality is hard to swallow. You might go on everyday without their love and constant support. They will be praying that you will be “cured” of your illness. And that will piss you off… or make you utterly sad, hence, defensive about your identity.

But you have to remember that they are not bad people (my family specifically). Yes, they are NOT bad people. And neither are you… Just stay strong. You are not alone.

From this day forward, I honestly do not know what is going to happen next. One of my best friends said what they do with the information is their business. I was honest but I was crushed as well.

A few minutes ago, I contemplated a lot of things like ending my life, running away forever, fighting all the homophobes, hating the world, etc. These things will not make you happy. But as of now, I am still in limbo. I do not know what to await when it comes to their dealing with it.

Nonetheless, this is who I am. And this is who you might be too. I hope it will get better for all of us.

Brave the cuts, and choose to live a happy and successful life. It will be painful, but it will be worth it. You just have to wait.

"Gay rights are human rights" - Hilary Clinton

How does being faithful to God equate to a quest to divest gays of their rights?

The whole thing is ironic to me.

“Regular” marriage and “Gay” marriage are like bikini tops and bras. The exact same thing, but only one is allowed in public.

(via momimtotallygay)

The Psychological Association of the Philippines desires to eliminate all forms of public and private discrimination

August 24, 2011

I went through a really long thesis defense. I felt like I was being murdered for 2 hours.

LGBTQ, I fought a hard battle for you. But it was worth it. :)

PS: Thank you, Lord, for the Juris Doctor degree!

Photos of Couples in NY who just got married <3